Note: 2019, the guys that age now are no longer The Millenials. The Generational name to-date as a placeholder is Gen Z. I kindah like iGen, myself, but we’ll see.
Full Article: Ways for Guys Too Young for the Singles Bars to Meet Beautiful Girls
1. Too Young – The Bar Scene Is Not Your Friend
When you are that age, bars are certainly not your best friend. When you’re young, you generally haven’t learned how to handle your alcohol, and will often be diminished should you manage to pick someone up for a one night stand. Or worse, like the movie, “Knocked Up,” you will manage to function just fine in bed and live to regret the results anyway.
2. You Need to Hone Your Social Skills in a No-Kill Zone
Secondarily, unless you really are TBMOC The Big Man on Campus or Alpha Male, competing with the rest of the throng of single peer-age guys is too much. You’re really competing at a very superficial attraction level in a very short period of time of maybe an hour or 2, and that’s no way to develop your interpersonal social and relating skills which honing will benefit you now as well as later in life when maybe at least a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship appeals to you. You don’t need to be skillfully one-upped by some guy aiming for a hookup while you’re just trying to get some social skill practice in and actually learn a thing or two, right?All the better to look for other locations for meeting and flirting with the opposite sex.
When you are eighteen or nineteen and you’re not headed off to a Four Year college or university program, that is totally cool. You might be more of a kineasthetic learner who learns best by “show me and now let me do” as your learning modality. That is perfectly fine. Not everyone’s professional career path is nurtured and enhanced by spending 4 years at college.
3. Community Colleges Can Prove Useful
Even while you are not attending Harvard University this quarter, you can still leverage the Law of Large numbers and take a weekend seminar, a one night adult learning workshop, or even 1 single 13 week class at your local community college and meet lots of young women around your age. While you are on campus, bopping in from you day job, be sure to invest as much time as possible on campus at the local snack or dining area on campus where people congregate. You want to be sure to leverage the social hanging out time which is already made available to you there on campus.
Many of the community colleges have a CDO-Career Development Office. Check this place out even before you enroll in a single class. Many bright young women will be headed over here themselves to start the career path and destination resources in this office. While many career resource centers offer their workshops online these day, do be sure to request a listing of any live trainings they provide in order both to benefit your own work life but also to increase your opportunities to interact with girls, young women, live.
See if there are any workshops which meet for 3-6 sessions. Attending more than just 1 or 2 sessions offers you the chance to interface slowly and get a little acquainted via the interaction of the workshop. Be sure always to break the ice with others during any of the breaks. Simply asking for change, you left your debit card at home – for the vending machine can serve to break the ice and offer you a neutral food selections topic for a brief verbal conversational exchange without taking much of a social risk. The need to return on time to the workshop gives everyone a graceful out exit strategy.
4. Shopping Mall Food Courts
I know. It feels like high school all over again, doesn’t it? But guess what? Plenty of young women who are taking a part-time course load at the local community college work at the shopping malls.Anyone who works at any of the stores has to eat, even if she brings her own meal.
The tables in the food court are typically open to any patron of the mall. Be sure to sit near but not next to others, leaving yourself open to able to break the ice with a young woman who sits near you.
Influence Power Tactic to Suggest Social Interaction: Feel free to take up a table meant for 4 as 1 person just before a meal rush so that a new young woman looking to eat her dinner during her 30 minutes meal break might ask if she could share the table with you. You know those tables for 4 which are really 2 seaters next to each other? Those. Pick one and spread your stuff out on all four seats until the crowd starts. Then only remove your things from the seat directly across from you. Then the one next to you. That bit of empty space invites others to be interested in sitting there and to solicit you to ask if she could sit there. Then, be sure to carry a conversation starter or notice and leverage hers to break the ice while she’s eating her dinner next to you.
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell
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April Braswell is an expert columnist at DatingAdvice.com and speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Divorce Support Groups as well as at Singles Dating Workshops and Singles Conferences in Orange County CA Life Coach April Braswell, LA and San Francisco.
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